Rules for being human


Years ago when people would tell me things like “be your own best friend“, “love yourself first“, or “take care of yourself, first“; I truly thought these people were insane!!

I had no idea what the hell they were talking about. It was such nonsense to me that they may as well have been speaking a foreign language. It just made no sense at all!!


❓❓ How the hell was I supposed to love me, nobody else seemed too. I was not worthy of this thing called love. Its only for the elite. I thought it was so far out of my grasp, that it was impossible to even witness it, let alone truly experience it.

🥺 With this mindset, I sought out people who affirmed my belief. I repeatedly chose abusive partners. I craved chaos & thought I was thriving in this crazy, mixed up, miserable world. I truly believed that I was living the best way I could because the people around me were struggling too.

💡 In 2000, my friend forced me to attend a 7 day retreat for co-dependency. I thought she was nuts, but she was not taking “no” for an answer. She arranged childcare for my kids, provided the transportation & would not shut up until she watched me walk through the front doors.

😭 I spent that week seriously ugly crying. Everything that was said & done was like the entire program was designed on my life story. Everything.

🤔 My mind began to shift. My eyes & my heart were opened to fresh, new (scary) ideas.

😲 I was not nearly as broken as I had been led to believe.

🙂 Maybe, just maybe this thing you call love has been inside me the whole time.

😊 Maybe, if I really looked at it, I would see that my entire life was filled with people too afraid to shine their own light, that they worked really hard to dim mine.

😃 Maybe, if my light shines, I could use it as a beacon for those with a similar light & we could find each other.

😍 Maybe, I am worthy after all.

💞 This has been a 20 year journey and today, I join the thousands of others who say:
👭 Be your own best friend.
If the people around you don’t inspire you to be more, do more – find new people!!
Be the reason why we call this beautiful earth a safe & loving place to call home.

💣 RULE # 9

Everything you seek, is already inside you.
Stop looking for it in other people.

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